Most of us are guilty of letting other people’s opinions and thoughts rule our lives. I don’t know about you, but what makes me the most happy is when I am doing my own thing. Not doing what other people expect of me and definitely not what others think I should be doing. Who has to live in your shoes every day? YOU. That’s the beauty of life. We get to be whoever we want to be and do whatever it is that makes us happy.
Of course we have to care what other people think of us at certain times and that’s just life. If we didn’t care what our friends had to say we wouldn’t have any, if we didn’t care about what our boss had to say we probably wouldn’t have a job, if we didn’t care about certain things we would struggle to get by. Sometimes wondering what others think of us actually drives and motivates us to reach our goals faster. However, we can and should only care what others think of us in certain times.
Every time I catch myself thinking “but what will people think of me?” I ask myself the following questions: Who will judge me? And are they important to me? And the answer to the second question is usually NO.
The only people that care what you do are the ones who love you for who you really are, to the depths of your soul. Those people are the ones that shouldn’t don’t put you down, don’t judge you and don’t comment on anything in your life that brings you joy. Those people should be uplifting and inspiring, accepting and supportive.
If the people you love are the ones you are most concerned about what they think of you then you may want to reconsider the people you choose to have closest to you. Then again, perhaps you are over thinking things and they actually aren’t judging the decisions you are making. The only way to find out is TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHERS THINK and see what happens.
NO ONE REALLY CARES ANYWAY
Sad… but true. We have thousands of thoughts per day and what you think of others and what they think of us probably consumes less than .5% of their thoughts in one day. We are all too concerned about our own lives to care what the people around us are doing. Stop thinking about what others could be thinking and use your time and energy to focus on yourself.
ONLY YOU MATTERS
At the end of the day the only person that should be concerned about the life your living is you. If you go to sleep at night happy, content and proud of the direction you’re going then that’s all that truly matters. You can’t possibly please everyone and that’s not our purpose in life anyway.
IT’ll BITE YOU IN THE BUTT
Using your energy and time worrying about the thoughts and opinions of others is going to wear you out. Stress is one of the biggest killers (silent killers) now that is something we should be concerned about! If you are going to worry about insignificant, meaningless thoughts and opinions of others you’re allowing them to have detrimental effects on your health and well-being. And we know by now that the people who judge us are more often than not meaningless to us. So who wants to give those people the satisfaction of knowing we lay asleep at night thinking about what they have to say. NOT ME!
IT’S THEM, NOT YOU
Most of the time the judgmental people we meet don’t add value to our life, don’t love us and we don’t have genuine love for them. If this is the case why care what they have to say? When someone feels the need to say something negative, cruel, uncalled for or give their unwanted opinion it says more about them than it does about you. For someone to make you feel less than you are is a reflection of how they feel on the inside. Think about anyone that’s ever been nasty to you… do they seem happy? Are they perfect? Do they have good values? Do they have a loving support system? Are they successful? Usually not. They are almost always missing something in their own lives and throwing out negativity and pulling others down is usually a coping mechanism to make them feel better about themselves.
I hope this has helped someone! I know myself I am really bad at letting go of negative energy so this was therapeutic for me to remind myself to let go.
Until next time,